A Little History
Following our separation, my children’s mother and I agreed on very little, except our love for the kids. Our's was a contentious break-up at best. Within our family, there were deliberate efforts to alienate the affections of my children from me. In other words, I became the targeted parent in efforts to denigrate me as a parent and a human being.
As a devoted Dad from a loving family and a professional man, I'd always regarded myself as able to take on life’s challenges. With a "lemons-to-lemonade" outlook, I tried to turn adversity into advantages, but in this case- I felt unprepared, uneducated and unable to navigate uncharted divorce-court waters. I educated myself on parental alienation, general parenting practices and techniques, on family law, custody evaluations, evaluations and evaluators, divorce court, domestic violence issues, communications skills and in time, successes came. I now have full legal and physical custody of the children, or better said- THEY have custody of ME.
I decided to pay forward the lessons learned. A word on PA (Parental Alienation) and PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome): Parent alienation is brainwashing and horrific in it's impact on families. It can be a daunting challenge to detect, to effectively address, and to reverse the impact.
Whether its divorce court, custody battles (or as it's termed in states like Arizona- "Legal Decision-making- Authority"), alienation activity, domestic violence or behavioral issues in parenting, we'd all agree that our children are worth all our best efforts.
Much of the battles waged are unnecessary and preventable. At Breakthrough Parents, we're driven to help prevent as much harm as possible. We assist parents by guiding and coaching them, helping access resources, helping parents educate themselves and to gain tools that safeguard children from harm.
In the throws of conflict and struggles, how would your family experiences improve with civil communications, creative, cooperative co-parenting? Do you have a blueprint for success? A plan? If the answer is no, we can help.
James developed and shares the personal strategies learned from his family’s setbacks and triumphs alike, along with that of thousands of others. His philosophy about parental alienation is summarized this way:
If we pride ourselves our children’s keepers and accept the notion there is even one seed of good in all people, then it is that seed we must nurture in the presence of our young. A crop watered with hateful rain is tarnished and barren; one showered with love yields a fertile harvest from which all the world may feast.